Dating close family friend
Baring in mind they broke up quite a while ago and she’s sort of seen other people, is it bad for me to fancy him?
He’s a really nice guy, but I don’t know how she would react.
Tread lightly at first and continue to monitor and process everyone’s fears or concerns. Since you can’t judge lasting love by physical accoutrements or initial biochemical attractions, you need an objective measure of the qualities, attributes, and character of the person you are looking for.
If the other person has children as well, it might be wise to orchestrate early get-togethers with just one set of children. But you also need—and here’s where single parents fall short—a silhouette of the type of family you are hoping to create.
Basically, it means that you don’t date your friends exes or crushes – unless you get their approval.
The only problem with that is that sometimes, we can’t help who we fall for…
Instead, make opportunities for them to get to know each other, but don’t force it. At first reference your date as “a friend” or if your kids are prepared, call them your “date.” Casual introductions are fine when you start dating someone, but don’t proactively put your kids and the person together until you are pretty sure there are real possibilities for the relationship.
It shows your friend that you respect her enough to consider her feelings before you go ahead with this.
That being said, I think you should only go after the dude if you’re 100 percent positive that your friend is over him and has moved on.
Soft invitations such as, “Roger will be having dinner with me on Saturday. Children of all ages, young to old, benefit when a parent says, “I can see that the idea of my dating scares you. and probably don’t want any more changes to our family. I appreciate your being honest with me.” Use phrases like “this scares you,” “you’re afraid that our family won’t be the same,” or “you don’t want to have to change schools or leave your friends.” This type of response validates the child’s fears. If you fall in love don’t abandon your kids by spending all of your free time with your newfound love. This is especially true for children under the age of five, who can bond to someone you are dating more quickly than you can.
You are welcome to join us if you’d like.” Show respect and allow relationships to develop at their own pace. It also shows them their feelings are important to you, keeps the communication door open, and helps children put labels on their own emotions (which is very important for young children especially). It’s tempting, but doing so taps your child’s fears that they are losing you and gives the false impression to your dating partner that you are totally available to them. As your interest in the person grows, gradually become more intentional about finding time for your significant other and your kids to get together.
Once your friend is done with the dude and she’s over him, then what’s the harm in you liking him or being with him? Read what these girls had to say about the topic and then tell us what you think in the comments. My close friend had a boyfriend and they went out for a while before they ended things.